An Adventure in Couples

A few months back I decided to take on a bit of a challenge.  At the request of a previous client, I popped my couples cherry AND my BDSM couples cherry.  Cuz if you're going to go big, go really big!  I think it is best shared by the subjects in question.  Read on...

I am not sure many of you know about the adventure I took recently. Krista took on a project that was new for her and pushed the limit of her skills. My Husband and I were her first couples shoot. Here is the journey from a male's perspective. It's a bit of a read :)

A Dominant’s Perspective on a Boudoir Photography Session

My memory is a bit fuzzy on how it started. Like most couples, my sub and I took pictures of our excursions, to share with friends and family. Geocaching in the Dragoons. Hand Grenades in New Orleans. Nights at the opera, a visit to the Air and Space museum. 

Later, we hired a close friend to take our engagement pictures at an abandoned greyhound track. 

So when my sub mentioned that she had met a boudoir photographer and was interested in having a couple’s shoot, I didn’t voice any concerns. After all, it’s easier to agree to something if there isn’t any sort of deadline. Ladies, take note. 

Weeks passed, and I noticed that my sub was requesting more and more time to spend with her friend Krista, the elusive photographer. Eventually, my sub showed samples of her work; it was simply stunning and made me reconsider what I had tentatively agreed to. This went far beyond playing dress up and posing. What I saw in those pictures was raw emotion, a piece of someone’s most vulnerable side exposed and captured to perfection. Their nature and essence immortalized in high-definition format. 

We met up with Krista for drinks and to discuss what the shoot would entail. I’ll admit to being a bit apprehensive, as I’m not one to trust easily. That goes double when the topic involves the relationship with my sub and my sexual preferences. Krista, fortunately, made it easy. She explained that she was looking to start doing couple shoots and asked if my sub and I would be willing to help develop some new techniques. Her attitude, somewhere between easygoing professional and carefree artist, won me over. I picked a date for the shoot, several months out to give myself some time to prepare.

Let’s be honest: at forty-one, I’m a bit past my prime. I started out by hitting the gym more aggressively, often up to 6 times a week. My sub introduced more meal replacement shakes into her diet, and I followed suit by limiting my sugar intake. After a couple months of lifting, watching my diet, and a regimen of supplements, I felt strong. 

However, as the deadline approached, I realized that I had neglected to prepare myself emotionally. I am not what most members of the BDSM community would consider a “traditional Dominant”. I don’t bark orders, rule through fear, or humiliate. It is not enough to believe that you should be served; one must strive to show that they are worthy of service. To me, the bondage and sexual elements are only a small part of our relationship. Important, but not as much as the sense of mutual respect and dedication. I wasn’t sure how to convey this to Krista. Photography naturally places an emphasis on the physical realm; it takes real skill to convey true emotion as well. 

On the day of the shoot, I settled on a dark suit (yes, a bit cliché but I’m comfortable wearing one) and a simple pair of jeans with a white t-shirt. My sub packed a few suitcases worth of outfits and shoes. From my collection, I picked a few favorites: a double loop flogger, a crop, a nice bullwhip (just for show), handcuffs, manacles, and some stocks that I had made from leopardwood. 

I was impressed with Krista’s small but elegant studio, which offered a variety of backgrounds, textures, furniture, and lighting options. I set to rigging up a hook in the ceiling and running some chain while my sub got her make up done in the other room. It was also a great opportunity to talk with Krista about what she was looking for, and how my sub and I usually interact. One thing that I wasn’t comfortable with was the term “scene”. To me, a scene implies something staged, something inherently false. What I do with my sub isn’t acting, it is very real. She suffers because pain brings a sense of tranquility. She suffers because it pleases me. And on very rare occasions, she suffers because her behavior requires it. 

It was initially difficult for me to strike a balance between accurately representing our lifestyle and giving Krista some good material to work with. Fortunately, she’s a pro, and was able to work around me while making some suggestions that would yield a better picture. Eventually, I got used to the occasional pause, shifting positions, changing implements and restraints. My sub took it all in stride and provided the emotional element that is so critical to good art. We learned to improvise, and even though it didn’t quite qualify as a real pain session, it was fun. My sub and I left the studio physically and emotionally exhausted, but content.
A few weeks later, we gathered in the studio again for the reveal. Krista presented us with a nice variety of packages, which included choices for an album or pieces of wall art. She had already done a great deal of work, reducing thousands of images down to a hundred or so for us to choose from. This proved to be much harder than I had anticipated, as every one of them was excellent. We opted for a leather-bound album of about 40 pictures, and a gorgeous piece of metallic wall art. 

Looking back, I wouldn’t change a thing. The process was physically and emotionally draining, but Krista’s work turned out to be priceless. She was able to capture the true nature of our relationship, from a perspective that I couldn’t have seen any other way. Each photo represents a unique facet of our relationship, for us to reflect on and appreciate as we continue our journey together.

Thanksgiving Sessions

When planning this month's newsletter topics I had a thought to google "sexy thanksgiving" and see what popped up! Holy Cow! There are tips all over the place on how to keep the mood alive throughout this crazy, hectic time of year! Everything from sexy foods, to meals that keep you looking good; sultry (and often cheesy) things to say to super cute outfit ideas! If Thanksgiving is your time of year, I highly suggest scheduling your session now! There are so many cute and fun ways we can incorporate the theme, leaving you with gorgeous images.

#sexysaturday - Wild & Blue

Blue is such a striking color on most skintones.  Whether you want to amp the traditional bridal blue or just make a splash in a gorgeous aqua, you can't go wrong!

Take Charge And Don't Apologize

Sam is a fabulous return client who volunteered to fill into a last minute opening for me.  We decided to have a little fun with some more low light looks and trying out some new poses that I was working on coaching.

I had tried my hand at making a tulle skirt (which I did quite poorly mind you!) but Sam was game to give it a shot and I'm glad we did.  We created some dreamy looking images - and we took it outside to play as well!

I had been wanting to do a sheet session so we worked through some ideas and worked on keeping all the important bits covered!

Birthday Boudoir Sessions

Birthday Boudoir!

Celebrate your birthday in style! So your birthday is coming up and your friends and family are talking about what restaurant you want to go to. Or maybe you are struggling trying to find a babysitter so you can actually a drink with your spouse for once? I have a better idea. Leave all that cliché stuff behind and have a boudoir shoot!

What an awesome way to celebrate you, the year that just passed and the year that awaits! Birthdays aren’t just one of those “Hallmark holidays” – they are a celebration of your birth and of all that you have brought to the world in the past year. Give yourself a well-deserved day of pampering – the lead up is fun, the day itself is epic and the afterglow lasts and lasts; your products and the memories live on forever. Frankly, its not uncommon to have a boudoir shoot every year for your birthday.

Besides, you can always go out to a fancy meal afterwards while you are still basking in the adventure of your session and rockin’ your styled hair and make-up!

Little Girls With Dreams Become Women With Vision

Ms. P came to me to put together a gift for her boyfriend.  Since they were in a long distance relationship at the time I wanted to put together something to wow him until they could be back together!

What specifically was your favorite part of our time working together, and why?
My favorite part of the Boudoir session was the day of the photo shoot. I loved having a day for me. I felt beautiful and comfortable in my own skin. I enjoyed having my hair and makeup done. It was like playing dress up and for a while I was able to let loose.

If you were to recommend a session to a friend, what would you tell them?
This is not a cheap venture. You need to know exactly what your getting yourself into financially, but if you are willing and able to spend the money, the quality is great. It's a fantastic experience that all women should try. Feeling beautiful in front of a camera is empowering.

Is there anything else you want to share?
Encourage your clients to make the whole day about them. Go get a mani/pedi or a massage. Help yourself relax and do only the things you want to do. My experience only lasted as long as the session which I was bummed about. 

Sexy Saturday - Say I Do In Blue

Are you getting hitched?  Need some ideas for your bridal boudoir session?  Check out these beautiful blue, I Do, inspired outfits!  For a little extra wedding day glam, bring your veil or your garter for some extra sexiness to tie together your special day.  I assure you, if you give your groom a beautiful album before the ceremony you'll have the fasted ceremony ever!

Ms. C

I always joke with my brides that giving their fiance an album (or app!) the day of their wedding will ensure the fastest ceremony in history.  Ms. C celebrated her upcoming wedding with a beautiful session and a great groom's gift.  

Know a bride-to-be who is stumped on what to get him?  Be sure to suggest a sexy session with One Two One!  Share this post with her and then have her contact me to get on the calendar.

Sexy Saturday - Beach Baby

Say hello to summer in some gorgeous swim wear!  Not necessarily for your session, these looks will keep you looking good all summer long.  Share your favorites in the comments below!

Beach baby

Swim suit
modcloth.com

Kate Spade intimate
katespade.com

Christian Louboutin platform pumps
$1,125 - saksfifthavenue.com

Valentino sandals flip flops
$290 - saksfifthavenue.com

Jack rogers sandals
jackrogersusa.com

Chanel jewelry
$1,560 - rebelle.com

H M hinged bracelet
$8.87 - hm.com

Crystal earrings
$2.89 - colettehayman.com.au

Eugenia Kim wide brim hat
$405 - saksfifthavenue.com

Dorothy Perkins hat
dorothyperkins.com

Word wall art
overstock.com

Wearing False Lashes For Your Session

They make look fake in real life and when you first put them on they feel so heavy and just, well weird! However, in your photos they will make a HUGE difference. You actually don’t really notice them in the pictures, but you will notice their effect. They accentuate your eyes and give them a gorgeous almond shape. These are a must-have!

But never fear, they are part of my glam squad makeup so you don't have to figure it on your own.  I remember the first time I tried to apply lashes for a dance recital, I stabbed myself in the eye, glued my eye shut and never did successfully get the damned lashes to 100% stick.  With practice its improved so if you have to do it yourself, be sure to watch several videos and practice before the big day!

Check out this site for some great tips on everything false lashes.

Do you have any favorite tips or tricks to false lashes?  Share in the comments!

Tears are a Sign of a Job Well Done

In some ways I think Kim's husband wanted her session as much as she did.  This isn't a bad thing for sure, I love when husbands are on board and want to see their women happy.

Kim was one of the first clients with whom I started incorporating emotional poses into each session.  This was definitely a new experience for both of us, but she went along with it and had a great sense of humor.  

As long as a location permits it, getting a client outside is high on my list of session to-dos.  It doesn't need to be the middle of the desert but just using the outside of the house or the patio area can help push comfort zones.

When I met Kim again for her reveal I started off with her slideshow.  When I walked back in the room I swear I saw a bit of moisture in the corner of her eyes.  She couldn't believe that was her in some of the images.  One of the best signs that I did my job is when a client gets teary.  

Sexy Saturday - Crimson Peak

Stuck on ideas for your session?  Check out this steampunk inspired red collection.  While I'm not usually a fan of adding too much to your look in terms of props and accessories, this is one place where it fits well!

4th of July Sessions

Happy Independence Day!

Summer is here and 4th of July is right around the corner - wanna see some fireworks? Book a boudoir shoot!

Listen, its called Independence Day for a reason - let go of all those hangs up and the baggage of self-deprecating nonsense you have in your head and BE FREE!

The best part is that a boudoir portrait session can be whatever you want it to be. Traditionally, boudoir portraiture implies a women in some state of undress, usually wearing lingerie. Maybe you are too shy for that? Good news!

The modern woman (or man!) doesn’t need to be limited in any way whatsoever.

You can start the session fully clothed curled up in a chair or on a couch - desire is mostly in the eyes anyway….

From there, your story unfolds as you’d like it to - remove one item of clothing at a time… or do a complete wardrobe change…

You will find yourself indulging in lingerie … maybe even into a full nude, white sheet session.

The possibilities are endless and again, YOU are FREE to decide.

What speaks to YOU? What’s your fantasy session?  Click over to my contact page and let's talk!

Random Thoughts from 16.2 Miles

This past weekend I had the opportunity to run my 2nd Indy Mini Marathon in Indianapolis, IN.  I had planned to run* with a friend of mine but she found out she had a family member's graduation to attend a few weeks prior so once again I flew solo.

*By run, I mean I'd see her at the start and we'd reconnect at the finish.  I'm slow.  She's not.

I don't really want to bore you with details of the race...I want to ramble about something else.  (But in reference to the title - I ran the Mega Mini Challenge because sometimes I'm a little crazy.  For the MMC you run the 5K and then walk back to the start line and run the Half Marathon.  Yeah.  I know, crazy.)

I should be clear here, I hate running.  There are small little moments where it isn't horrible, in fact it can be downright fun.  But the training part?  Generally not a fan.

During the run (assuming you're slow like me and start in the back), you get to see a HUGE variety of people.  It's when you see these people that the emotions really kick into high gear.  I saw people who were running their first half marathon, many of them not the young "kids" you might think who would be out for their first.  

I saw early on, a couple of guys who ran in full fireman gear - complete with masks & O2 tanks.  Those guys are heros, and badasses.  My dad was a fire fighter so seeing them out there hit hard.  You look at yourself trying to run in as little weight as possible and there are these guys in 40+ lbs of gear and you tell yourself you can totally do this.

The woman carrying an American flag (and others too), with pictures of a person who I assume was her husband pinned to her shirt.  She was running for her hero.

The funny signs held by spectators along the course - good to make you laugh or bring a smile to your face when it starts getting tough or just to make you pick up the pace a bit.

Some people make it a party and dress up - a guy in a T-rex costume, a group of friends dressed as Little Bo Peep, sheep and a black sheep too (I saw them hanging outside a bar having their own kind of aid station).  

Every single person out there has a story of how they arrived.  Some look like they've been running for decades, and even if they are barely above walking they are still out there.  The kid who looked about 6, walking the half with his mom.  The 20- and 30-somethings who run for fun (craziness!).  The first timers and the seasoned vets.  When you're on the course, your history doesn't matter.  Your speed doesn't matter.  Every step is another line of your story.  It's a reflection of how far you've come, how far you have to go - or how far someone has propelled you.

I didn't make it through the first mile of the half before tears came to my eyes.  Not from the 40 deg temps or the slight drizzle.  But because of something I can't even put into words.  That overwhelming feeling of doing something big, reaching a goal, checking a box, making yourself (or someone else) proud.  

I can only speak to the middle/back of the pack, but everyone there is friends.  Standing in line for the bathroom?  It's like you've known each other for years.  Pacing each other?  Training partners since the beginning.  Coming to the finish?  The best support crew you'll ever find.  I don't know the names of the people I've run with, but every single one of them has made a mark on my life.  The guy who looked to be about 70, he reminded me that I had more yet to give.  The Army guys carrying full packs?  I'm not carrying that load, I can push on.  The kids (way) younger than me?  I can find some more energy.  I can keep going.

And when its all over?  You all have the same medal. You all have the same t-shirt.  While your times are different, you are all part of a bigger story.  You were a runner.

Confidence as Beauty

When I met Sam and started exchanging texts with her I found her intriguing.  She was bubbly and excited and still she seemed to lack some confidence.  This is what I hoped to give her.  This is also what I see in myself a lot of the time.  It is also a frequent statement of boudoir clients.  They just can't seem to see what their boyfriend or husband sees.  Sometimes it is deeper than that.

My mission is to help you see that beauty.  We as women get bogged down under not just life but expectations.  Just scrolling through our Facebook feed is enough to want to go hide in under a blanket for a few days.  When fabulous looking celebrities grace articles with click bait headlines like "Can you believe she walked outside like this??!!" it's hard to imagine even thinking about competing.

When we met, Sam had recently split from her significant other and was looking for a confidence booster.  I tried a few new things (most sessions include the phrase "hey, let's try this!") and she was a trooper through it all. 

Her boudoir session was at a beautiful and rustic looking stone house on the west side of town.  The courtyard provided a great outdoor location which Sam was game to strut her stuff in.  Sometimes a location can be a bit of a letdown.  When I choose a location for a session I'm looking for a few key things and I generally don't worry about others.  In this house, the living room furniture wasn't a big turn on for me so I was going to just use it for staging but after staring at the round ottoman for awhile, I decided it needed to be incorporated, so that's exactly what we did.

This proved to be a motivational session for her.  Sam walked away with her head held high and a new-found sense of confidence.  She also walked away with the motivation to start a transformation.  I can't solve all your problems in a single day, but I can show you that you are not alone.  Sam plans to come back one of these days and we're going to do this all again and show her how far she's come.

Are you ready to see how far you can go?

Tattoos in the City

My sister’s have done it. I happened to see your ad on Facebook and I think my husband would love it.
— Ms. S

 

THE SEXY AND AMAZING MS. S HITS THE WEB TODAY.

When I first met Ms. S, like all clients, I ask what is prompting them to do a session.  Ms. S's answer certainly wasn't a surprise - she's thought of doing a session for awhile, she had family members who had done it and had a great time.  She had seen my ad on Facebook (have you liked my page yet?) for a Valentine's Special and decided to take the plunge.  I am so glad she did!  She rocked this session like a pro after a little warm up and I think you'll agree that this woman is a stunner.  This session was shot in an apartment in downtown Tucson that overlooked the One South Church plaza.  We had a beautiful sunny day and floor to ceiling windows to capitalize on the light.

Ms. S told me that her husband loves to cook so she wanted to do a little cooking inspired look for him.  We broke out some flour and hilarity ensued trying to get the perfect flour hand print on her booty.  Who knew flour could be so fun and so hard to get to stick to skin when you actually want it to do so!  Check out that reflection on the countertop - that turned out to be a lucky score for an amazing looking image.

Once we finished, Ms. S ran off to a soccer game but promised me that there would be a date night for her and husband later.  I recommend to clients is to plan a date night with their significant other after their session.  You have gorgeous hair and makeup and a new dose of self-confidence; what better time to hit the town?

Have you considered doing a session but can't think of when you'd find the time?  Do you have a Friday, Saturday or Sunday available?  Those are my primary days for sessions which work well with not only your schedule but your families.  Other days are available for an extra fee.