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Hello dear readers....this is a blog feature I've been wanting to do for awhile but getting people to submit questions has been...ahem...challenging - so I made it anonymous.  If you click over to the blog homepage you'll find an Ask box.  You've got a question about, well....anything I support, type it in there and I'll get a notification and then I'll add it to my list of random stuff people want to know about.  Granted, this is probably going to have some sexual undertones (relationships, sex, sessions and such) you are welcome to ask anything.

From time to time I'll grab some guest answerer's or what I really mean is, someone who probably knows the answer better than me.  Or someone who writes a funnier answer.  I can't be serious all the time.

So without further ado.....


What are Ben Wa balls?


These babies have been around for a LONG time.  Sure 50 Shades really brought them and their amazing capabilities to light, but it seems they were originally created by Japanese women before spreading across Asia and into Europe.


What started as hollow brass balls have evolved into a variety of materials and sizes and concepts.  In their original form, one ball was hollow and the 2nd was filled with mercury or a smaller heavier ball.  You inserted the first (hollow), pushing it back to the cervix (good time to verify those IUD strings too.....) and then the 2nd heavier one.  Go about your day and see how long you can stand up straight.  

As the balls roll around you'll find that they may want to fall out (depends on the size/weight today).  This is a great time to work those pelvic muscles with kegel exercises.  If you find yourself constantly losing your balls, try working with something larger until you've built up some muscle and then go back to the smaller or heavier size.

Some recommendations for you:

LELO Luna Beads: (Pictured above) These are a great investment because of the options available.  You can use a single ball, or use the included holder to combine 2 balls.  The regular set includes a total of 4 balls, 2 of each weight so you can mix and match as your skills increase.

Pandora Exercise Ball: (Below) This set from Tracy's Dog (most random name ever) includes 3 different weights/sizes so you can build up.  They also have a great little loop for removal assistance.



If you have difficulty inserting them, use a little lube.  While typically I'd say more lube is always the best lube, in this case, I'd probably using a small amount.  Too much lube, round balls and trying to push them in your vagina sounds like it might end very poorly.

Depending on the size and shape different insertion (and removal positions!) will matter.  Try laying down if its your first time or you struggle to insert or remove standing.

Start slow, try shifting them around by contracting your pelvic muscles (like when you're in the bathroom peeing and the phone rings and you have to panic stop?  Yeah, like that)

Like any sex toy, make sure to wash it well after use.  Especially if you're using the silicone kind, those suckers pick up every piece of lint possible and you don't want to be shoving that up your vagina.

Start with ones that have a removal string.  If you decide to ignore this advice and go straight to the metal or glass balls sans removal device...well they will come eventually.  But don't panic, just add some lube and bear down.  Don't worry, they can't get lost.