5 Questions About A Boudoir Session!

I'm really nervous. Is that normal?

It is definitely normal to be nervous for your boudoir session, so don't worry. Most of our clients are nervous until the session has gone on for a few minutes. After it starts, you’ll begin to loosen up.  Plus I'm really awesome at being a dork so you'll have plenty to laugh at.

How do I know how to pose?

Don’t worry about posing. I've totally got you covered in that department. I know lots of tricks to create the most flattering angles for you, no matter what shape or size you are.  I also will demonstrate the foundational pose and general gist of what I want you to do.

Do your packages include hair and makeup?

Absolutely!  I believe that every woman deserves some pampering so all of our sessions start with professional hair & makeup to give you a chance to relax.  But I promise we're just going for an amp'd up natural look - nothing crazy!

Am I allowed to bring alcohol to help loosen my nerves?

As long as you're over 21, I have no issue with a pre-shoot drink. We do offer champagne, wine or beer at your session to help you relax.  Plus we've got non-alcoholic stuffs too.

 Do you provide the wardrobe?

Yes & No.

No - I prefer that you provide your own wardrobe.  I want something you like, that is meaningful to you.

Yes - I do have a studio wardrobe that you're welcome to pull from or we can supplement what you brought.  If you are interested in using it, please do let me know so I can pull some items for you.

 Have a question that’s not listed here? Contact us and we can answer it for you.

An Adventure in Couples

A few months back I decided to take on a bit of a challenge.  At the request of a previous client, I popped my couples cherry AND my BDSM couples cherry.  Cuz if you're going to go big, go really big!  I think it is best shared by the subjects in question.  Read on...

I am not sure many of you know about the adventure I took recently. Krista took on a project that was new for her and pushed the limit of her skills. My Husband and I were her first couples shoot. Here is the journey from a male's perspective. It's a bit of a read :)

A Dominant’s Perspective on a Boudoir Photography Session

My memory is a bit fuzzy on how it started. Like most couples, my sub and I took pictures of our excursions, to share with friends and family. Geocaching in the Dragoons. Hand Grenades in New Orleans. Nights at the opera, a visit to the Air and Space museum. 

Later, we hired a close friend to take our engagement pictures at an abandoned greyhound track. 

So when my sub mentioned that she had met a boudoir photographer and was interested in having a couple’s shoot, I didn’t voice any concerns. After all, it’s easier to agree to something if there isn’t any sort of deadline. Ladies, take note. 

Weeks passed, and I noticed that my sub was requesting more and more time to spend with her friend Krista, the elusive photographer. Eventually, my sub showed samples of her work; it was simply stunning and made me reconsider what I had tentatively agreed to. This went far beyond playing dress up and posing. What I saw in those pictures was raw emotion, a piece of someone’s most vulnerable side exposed and captured to perfection. Their nature and essence immortalized in high-definition format. 

We met up with Krista for drinks and to discuss what the shoot would entail. I’ll admit to being a bit apprehensive, as I’m not one to trust easily. That goes double when the topic involves the relationship with my sub and my sexual preferences. Krista, fortunately, made it easy. She explained that she was looking to start doing couple shoots and asked if my sub and I would be willing to help develop some new techniques. Her attitude, somewhere between easygoing professional and carefree artist, won me over. I picked a date for the shoot, several months out to give myself some time to prepare.

Let’s be honest: at forty-one, I’m a bit past my prime. I started out by hitting the gym more aggressively, often up to 6 times a week. My sub introduced more meal replacement shakes into her diet, and I followed suit by limiting my sugar intake. After a couple months of lifting, watching my diet, and a regimen of supplements, I felt strong. 

However, as the deadline approached, I realized that I had neglected to prepare myself emotionally. I am not what most members of the BDSM community would consider a “traditional Dominant”. I don’t bark orders, rule through fear, or humiliate. It is not enough to believe that you should be served; one must strive to show that they are worthy of service. To me, the bondage and sexual elements are only a small part of our relationship. Important, but not as much as the sense of mutual respect and dedication. I wasn’t sure how to convey this to Krista. Photography naturally places an emphasis on the physical realm; it takes real skill to convey true emotion as well. 

On the day of the shoot, I settled on a dark suit (yes, a bit cliché but I’m comfortable wearing one) and a simple pair of jeans with a white t-shirt. My sub packed a few suitcases worth of outfits and shoes. From my collection, I picked a few favorites: a double loop flogger, a crop, a nice bullwhip (just for show), handcuffs, manacles, and some stocks that I had made from leopardwood. 

I was impressed with Krista’s small but elegant studio, which offered a variety of backgrounds, textures, furniture, and lighting options. I set to rigging up a hook in the ceiling and running some chain while my sub got her make up done in the other room. It was also a great opportunity to talk with Krista about what she was looking for, and how my sub and I usually interact. One thing that I wasn’t comfortable with was the term “scene”. To me, a scene implies something staged, something inherently false. What I do with my sub isn’t acting, it is very real. She suffers because pain brings a sense of tranquility. She suffers because it pleases me. And on very rare occasions, she suffers because her behavior requires it. 

It was initially difficult for me to strike a balance between accurately representing our lifestyle and giving Krista some good material to work with. Fortunately, she’s a pro, and was able to work around me while making some suggestions that would yield a better picture. Eventually, I got used to the occasional pause, shifting positions, changing implements and restraints. My sub took it all in stride and provided the emotional element that is so critical to good art. We learned to improvise, and even though it didn’t quite qualify as a real pain session, it was fun. My sub and I left the studio physically and emotionally exhausted, but content.
A few weeks later, we gathered in the studio again for the reveal. Krista presented us with a nice variety of packages, which included choices for an album or pieces of wall art. She had already done a great deal of work, reducing thousands of images down to a hundred or so for us to choose from. This proved to be much harder than I had anticipated, as every one of them was excellent. We opted for a leather-bound album of about 40 pictures, and a gorgeous piece of metallic wall art. 

Looking back, I wouldn’t change a thing. The process was physically and emotionally draining, but Krista’s work turned out to be priceless. She was able to capture the true nature of our relationship, from a perspective that I couldn’t have seen any other way. Each photo represents a unique facet of our relationship, for us to reflect on and appreciate as we continue our journey together.

Say Hello To Brand Ambassador Sam G!

Sam is one of my amazing ambassadors for 2018!  She's actually 1 of 2 Sam's that are Ambassadors!  She's originally from California but moved here (yay!) to pursue her schooling and career in the veterinary field.

She considers herself and old soul and enjoys retro & older things.  

"I've always been fascinated with boudoir photography and have never had the courage to do it. i always told myself, it's not the right time, I'm not thin enough to do it. As I got older I came to realize that it will never be "the right time" I finally decided to do it because I'm starting to fall back in love with myself. I'm finally becoming more and more comfortable with who I am in my own skin. I would like to empower other women who aren't "super model standard" that you can do anything you want as long as you love yourself."

"I want to remember the current mindset that i have, self love always comes first. Don't let anyone tell you your worth, just because you aren't their form of beautiful, you should think that you are your own kind of beautiful."

 

Why did you want to be an Ambassador?

I have become an ambassador to help spread the message of self love and confidence. And why the heck not!

Hey....You Matter! | Tucson Boudoir Photography

The measure of a life is not what that life accomplishes but rather the impact that life has on others.
— Jackie Robinson

In our business, I find joy in making sure each of my clients remembers that she matters. It is so easy to get swept up in the every day runnings of life and feel insignificant. It can't begin and end there though. It's important to me that you take all those warm and happy feelings, then let someone else know that they too are important.

When I think about other people who have made a lasting impression in my life, they are not people that did grand or amazing things. They are people that in some simple way made me feel important. Through their words and actions they let me know that I matter.

Being important and mattering is a basic human need. There isn't one person in the world who doesn't want to belong. We all want to know and feel that our existence is important and our lives matter. There are so many things we can do to make a difference in someone else's day. Here are two things you can start doing today that will have people walking away from you saying to themselves "I am important. I matter."

One. Begin and end sentences with the word "you." You are wonderful. You are so good at (fill in the blank.) Meetings would be so boring without you. You amaze me. I admire you. It feels good just reading them and saying them out loud. Imagine just how amazing someone will feel when they hear these statements from you!

Two. Listen with interest, and be present. Listening with interest is listening with your ears and your heart! It's truly enjoying what the speaker has to say and wanting to hear more. This is not interjecting your own similar story. This is not listening just to be polite. How can the listener tell the difference? They just can! Being present means listening with your ears, and your eyes, and your brain. You know that distant look that someone gets when you are talking and you know they are just somewhere else. You feel invisible. Guard yourself against this and listen with your heart.

There are many more ways you can let others know that they are important. How do you make someone feel like they matter?  Share in the comments below!

Get The Best You | Tucson Boudoir Photography

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Oftentimes the biggest complaint from clients is that they don’t like the way they look in photos. And even more often, this is because their photographer is inexperienced. Professionals in the field understand and are trained on how to make their clients look their best, through posing, editing, and coaching during the shoot. These key ingredients make or break the shoot. When you invest in a professional, you are paying for their expertise and guidance to make you look the best you can, which is a factor that should be considered when seeking out your photographer.

Especially when it comes to boudoir photography, we as women, are our own worst critics and we all feel that we have flaws or imperfections that we just don't like about ourselves. This is where making sure a professional photographer, who's style you love, is one that you hire to take these personal portraits of you. A photographer who has experience working with every concern we have about our figures, skin, hair and more.  

They are trained to show us in our best light, they give us the BEST us.

When you are ready to let out the gorgeous, get in touch.

Hello Vegas! An overdue tale of WPPI

So I'm only 3 months behind? writing a post about my trip to Vegas.  Better late than never I guess!

So at the end of Feb/beginning of March I had the privilege of attending the Wedding & Portrait Photographers International Conference and Expo in Las Vegas.  Because what could possibly be better than a week, in Vegas, with like 10,000 of your closest photography friends.  In fairness I went solo but came home with a ton of new friends and new ideas.  

The first few days I attended some amazing speakers and met a ton of new people and some wonderful boudoir photographers.

Great new friends at WPPI!  Including Blue Flame Boudoir, Torrid Boudoir, Last Forty Percent Boudoir, Jen Rozenbaum, Jana Roller Photography & more (Photos courtesy of the beautiful ladies at Blue Flame Boudoir, Jana Roller Photography and Torrid Boudoir)

Great new friends at WPPI!  Including Blue Flame Boudoir, Torrid Boudoir, Last Forty Percent Boudoir, Jen Rozenbaum, Jana Roller Photography & more (Photos courtesy of the beautiful ladies at Blue Flame Boudoir, Jana Roller Photography and Torrid Boudoir)

I also participated in a Glamour Master class from the awesome Nino Batista.  More on that in another post (someday....soon, I promise!)

One of the highlights was a Photo Walk with Jen Rozenbaum.  She is a photographer out of the NYC area that I have looked up to in the past few years.  She's a big proponent of the #shamelesslyfeminine movement.  We had the ability to shoot with two models.  Unfortunately we were a bit relegated to one of the expo rooms so we did what we could.  Near the end of the time we moved out to the staircase going down to the conference center.  Truthfully those are some of my favorite images from the night.

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Lastly, probably one of the best parts of the week was the Expo!  So many amazing new products and I'm excited to be bringing some of them to you in the future.

One of my first additions will be a new album for those choosing more than 40 images (pretty much you love them all!).  It's the same lay flat (no seam) thick pages as my other albums but with a chic aluminum cover accent with sumptuous leathers.  These albums will come a complementary box.

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I also got the latest scoop on new materials from my current lab so now there are more choices than ever.  Plus, can anyone say acrylic prints?  Not just as part of an album collection but available as wall art pieces and prints for your nightstand.  Those will be introduced later this summer most likely.  Stay tuned!

Coming Soon - Summer Special! | Tucson Boudoir Photography

Everyone loves a special right?  I'm dreaming up something for the summer and while I can't unwrap it all quite yet I can tell you that it is going to be very limited.  There will be one day in July and one August so start planning now for an amazing summer session!

Tentative Dates:

July 17

August 14

Each day will have a max of 4 sessions.

Interested?  Shoot me a note!